Well, there's been a lot going on. If you're reading this, then you know why I've been laying low, and why I haven't wanted to post on the family blog.
Well, let's see, I guess I'll get the more serious stuff out of the way. I wish someone had told me that marriages weren't easy, that they take work. A couple of months ago, a good friend of mine told me that you choose who you love. At first I thought she was nuts, but the more I think about it, the more she's right. I believe that you make your day. If you wake up and say "I'm going to have a bad day", then, you're usually right. But if you make the choice to have a good day, then who can stop you? And I'm starting to think that marriage, in the most basic sense, is just like that. Someone, knowing what we were going through, asked me how things were the other day. I gave my basic, generic, "Some days are better than others" response. She told me that all marriages were like that. And I really took the time to think about that, rather than brushing it off. Just because other people appear to always be happy doesn'tmean they are. Every marriage, like every friendship, has bad days. And, I made a commitment to God, my husband, my son, and our families to make this work. Rascal Flatts had released a song called Love Who You Love. It never made sense to me, until now. Love who you are going to love with everything you have. From here on, I CHOOSE my marriage.
OK, onto lighter things :) It's going to be nice again today...and I am so excited. Randy and I haven't had a day off together in a while. So we are taking advantage and going to The Green Dragon. Sounds mysterious, yes? It's a great big Farmers Market in Lancaster. I must have yummy fruits. And I need new sunglasses. So we will bribe Wyatt with the promise of a new fishing pole if he behaves.
I started my very first vegitable garden yesterday. Baby steps....I planted tomato, zucchini, and cucumber seeds. I just did it in one of those greenhouse things that sits on the counter, and I will transplant them to the actual garden nexxt Friday. (Hopefully we will have made the outside garden ready by then!) I'm going with the one project a year idea...And this year it's the garden. Both veggie and flower. I need to figure out what I want to do, and, well, do it. There's so much I want done in the yard, but I will start there. Maybe next year will be the year of the egg hens :)
Needless to say, the fertility stuff has been put on hold. I don't know how long for, I will know when it's right for us to start back in the process. I do want to lose weight first, and, without a doubt, work on our marriage. Some days it seems like everyone around me is pregnant, or has a baby, but I know that's my head making me wonky.
It's the Just Like New weekend...The best consignment sale EVER. I got a TV for Wyatt for his birthday...It's shaped like a firetruck. A friend of mine was saying he wanted one for his son, so we looked online...that sucker retails for 699.00! I paid 35. Bwaha! I think in the fall I will consign some of Wyatt's old clothes. I can't keep them around for the next one. That's a minimum of 6 years! Someone else will get some use out of them, I'm sure.
Alright, I must get my second cup. Tomorrow, I will be blogging from work. So, it will probably be about work. There's a lot on my mind (work, school for Wyatt) I must get it all out. Pity to my readers!
That's a great choice, Steph! So glad to hear it! It's heartbreaking to hear of divorce thoughts, this makes me happy!
ReplyDeleteI'm waiting for hubby to get home and start tilling the ground where we want to plant our garden. I hope we can get the work done before rain comes-the clouds are moving in and looking threatening.
PS-I'm around when you need encouragement!
Steph, You have been a great friend to me. Thank you for everything! I am so glad to hear things are going better for you and your family. Please know that just like you've been here for me lately, I'm here for you, if you ever need anything!!! :) <3
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