Anyway...that's not what this was supposed to be about. Stuff happens. We know this. Anyone who has ever seen a bumper sticker knows it. Bad things happen to good people, blah blah. What makes it so hard is to know that there is a God out there. Yes, believing generally softens the blow, but sometimes....it doesn't. And even believing in God and knowing He has a plan doesn't negate the fact that sometimes, life just isn't fair.
So what do you do? What do you do when you feel like your world is falling down? Or when you are watching someone else's life crumble? What do you say? Words simply can't always make things better. What's left? Do you make empty promises? Do you quote scripture? Sorry, but when I'm angry at God, the last thing I want to do is listen to Him.
The only thing I really have to compare any of this to is my struggle with infertility. I know it's not the same, nor is my infertility struggle the same as the girl sitting next to me at the doctor's office. Similar, maybe, but not the same. Similar enough that I know (now) that words meant to heal only hurt. Things I use to find comfort may only make it worse for someone else.
There is one thing all of us can do. Every single one of us who is experiencing any kind of fear or loss or hurt has one thing left.....
Hope.
No one....not one of us, knows what will happen tomorrow. I do know this~ Miracles happen. People beat the odds, and accomplish what they were told would never happen.
So don't give up.
Hope.
"When you say a person or a situation is hopeless, you are slamming the door in the face of God"
I would say sorry that you are having a hard time but clearly, as you said, words don't help.
ReplyDeleteWhat do I do when I find myself in a predicament where there really is no right thing to say... to share... there is no right, period? I generally give the basic 'I'm sorry, I wish I could make it better' not because it helps because it is really the only way to let someone know that you are there.
Other than that the only thing I can do is still be there. Be their friend.
I hope things in your life get smoother.
This really wasn't so much for me...A very good (in fact, best) friend is going through something difficult right now. One of the people she should be able to lean on said something incredibly hurtful to her, and it made me furious. I just want her to know I love her, and I'll be there, and not to give up.
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